{the facts and forgiving}

Recently I had a lesson in seminary saying that you need to forgive everyone. "I will forgive whom I will forgive but of you it is required."
And this normally wouldn't be a problem because I'm such a forgiving person. I live the "forgive and forget" saying. But sometimes it's harder to forgive depending on the situation.

Like this one.

Yes. It went downhill really fast. And maybe I did blow it a little out of proportion but SO DID YOU! I mean is it really that big of a deal? The real answer, no. It wasn't.
So why did you have to go all weird about it? It didn't involve you, so why were you involved? I think the thing that really bugged me the most is just how you stated that you didn't approve of it.
"Don't lower your standards for people."
"If they're not making you happy, find someone new."
"That's inappropriate."
Those things you said... made me feel like you were better than me. More superior than I was. Like you knew WAY more about life than I did, so you just HAD to tell me how to do things correctly. Because obviously YOU KNOW EVERYTHING.

Well. First off, you don't.
You don't know everything.
You don't know him. You don't know my relationship with him. And you don't know how important he is to me.
You don't know ANY of that.

So how DARE you, judge me on something he did? How DARE you tell me that it was "inappropriate"? And how DARE you expect me to be ok with you saying that?

So yes. I am mad at you. In fact, I was FURIOUS. I could not believe how insensitive you were being. But guess what? I've decided to forgive you.

I forgive you for being an insensitive jerk. Who didn't stop to think about the underlying factors of mine and his relationship. Maybe you and I don't have the same standards .. but you have yours and I have mine. I forgive you for being an egotistical know-it-all and trying to tell me what to do/how to live my life. Don't you dare do that again. I do what I want and you know that. I forgive you for blowing things way out of proportion and not stopping to think first.
The thing is, I forgive you.

But. I still don't want to talk to you. I'm still a little, actually more than a little, peeved about this whole thing. And how things went down. I just need my space. I want time to think about how things. And I would like it very much if you could just grant me that one thing. And I'm sure this could be a great time for you to learn how to live without me. Because I'm not always going to be here, in fact, I'll be gone before you know it.



Have fun with Sarah.